I’m Getting Married In The Morning!

I’m getting married in the morning!

Oh well, not me but Ryan and Valerie got hitched officially on 9th October 2014 and by that, I mean they’re legally bound by Singapore’s marital laws 😉

I now pronounced you Man & Wife!

I now pronounced you Man & Wife!

Before they register their marriage, Ryan had to seek Valerie’s parents’ blessings and asked for her hand. Below are some traditional betrothal gifts he has to bring for the bride’s family after a pre-discussion (see my post here) and agreement from us to let him marry our daughter.

Betrothal, aka Guo Da Li 过大礼, aka ‘Na Zhen’, is the traditional Chinese formalities performed by the groom to bind both families together. The act shows the sincerity of the Groom to the Bride’s family.

In the past, Guo Da Li is fulfilled 2 to 3 months before the distribution of invitation cards (wedding party) where a senior relative from the groom’s side will accompany him to present the 聘金 (pin jin – usually money, in a big red packet “hongbao”) and the agreed upon gifts to the bride’s family.

Nowadays, this process is usually done two to three weeks before the wedding day and a good friend may also replace the elder and accompany the groom instead.

These were the betrothal gifts from Ryan’s family to Valerie’s parents (me!) hehehe…

Traditional Chinese Betrothal Gifts

Betrothal Basket.

Traditional Chinese Betrothal Gifts

These dried goods have their auspicious symbolism and tea will be made from them on the morning the groom comes over to “hijack” the bride.

Traditional Chinese Betrothal Gifts

Traditionally, whole roasted pigs (how many pigs depends on the negotiation and of course, the more the merrier as it goes to show off the wealth and sincerity of the groom’s side) with tails intact, but being modern times, it would be too cumbersome to present trays of pigs so canned pork trotters are introduced.

Traditional Chinese Betrothal Gifts

Mandarins are symbols of good luck and gold and thus a must.
The red cloth is to wrap the hongbao with pin jin inside.

Traditional Chinese Betrothal Gifts

This is the hongbao with the pre-discussed pin jin (money) inside.
The amount of money indicated the bride’s price or simply put, dowry.

Traditional Chinese Betrothal Gifts

The hongbao is XXL in size in comparison to those we give out during Chinese New Year, lol…

Traditional Chinese Betrothal Gifts

There are 2 pairs of Dragon & Phoenix Candles.
Each family (bride and groom) keeps a pair.
On the morning when the groom leaves his house to the bride’s, both the respective mothers (parents) will light them up.

Traditional Chinese Betrothal Gifts

These were the gifts we received from Guo Da Li.

Traditional Chinese Betrothal Gifts

These were the reciprocal gifts we gave to the groom’s parents.

Ryan’s parents accompanied him that morning of Na Zhen. Ryan’s dad even sang some songs (by Elvis Presley and Tom Jones) to entertained us. My hubby entertained back with some card tricks which amazed Ryan’s dad to no end. There were plenty of fun and laughter with plans to play table tennis and go for karaoke regularly. I am very happy that both of our families can get along well.

Tonight, we will be having a small wedding dinner with some friends and relatives (Ryan’s grand parents and uncles’families have flown in from Korea) to celebrate the young couple’s joy.

I have to go now because in a couple of hour’s time, the groom will arrive with his entourage to snatch my daughter! We have bitter gourds and lots of yucky foods as well as tricks these boys have to eat and perform before the haggling of more hongbaos for the bridesmaids. Only then can Ryan bring Valerie over to his parents’ house (crossing of threshold) for customary tea offering to her in-laws.

Happy Sunday! 🙂

Lookout for the lunch we had before ROM and perhaps tonight’s wedding dinner might get a spot in my blog, too!

12 Responses to “I’m Getting Married In The Morning!”
  1. renxkyoko says:

    Why am I so excited too ? Wooo ! I love weddings !! Anyway, please give my congratulations and best wishes to the bride and groom from this humble blogger… still single, waiting for my fated one… the prince in shining armor… * sniff * not gonna happen.

  2. May all of the Gods bless you and your family during this auspicious event …
    ME and the Boss

  3. jmsabbagh says:

    Congratulation,wishing you happiness and prosperity ,be blessed.Jalal

  4. best wishes to Ryan and Valerie

  5. Congratulations! I remember when we were organising the “Da li” for my brother’s wedding this year! We gave suckling pig to my sis-in-law’s relatives hehe.

  6. Congrats to Ryan and Valerie! Wishing them a happy married life 🙂

  7. laurasmess says:

    Oh that’s awesome Samantha!! Congrats to Ryan and Valerie! What a great insight into a Chinese wedding, I had no idea about the significance of the different foods and gifts etc. Beautiful pictures xx

  8. Lignum Draco says:

    You don’t lose a daughter, you gain a son.

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