I’m Getting Married In The Morning!
I’m getting married in the morning!
Oh well, not me but Ryan and Valerie got hitched officially on 9th October 2014 and by that, I mean they’re legally bound by Singapore’s marital laws 😉
Before they register their marriage, Ryan had to seek Valerie’s parents’ blessings and asked for her hand. Below are some traditional betrothal gifts he has to bring for the bride’s family after a pre-discussion (see my post here) and agreement from us to let him marry our daughter.
Betrothal, aka Guo Da Li 过大礼, aka ‘Na Zhen’, is the traditional Chinese formalities performed by the groom to bind both families together. The act shows the sincerity of the Groom to the Bride’s family.
In the past, Guo Da Li is fulfilled 2 to 3 months before the distribution of invitation cards (wedding party) where a senior relative from the groom’s side will accompany him to present the 聘金 (pin jin – usually money, in a big red packet “hongbao”) and the agreed upon gifts to the bride’s family.
Nowadays, this process is usually done two to three weeks before the wedding day and a good friend may also replace the elder and accompany the groom instead.
These were the betrothal gifts from Ryan’s family to Valerie’s parents (me!) hehehe…
Ryan’s parents accompanied him that morning of Na Zhen. Ryan’s dad even sang some songs (by Elvis Presley and Tom Jones) to entertained us. My hubby entertained back with some card tricks which amazed Ryan’s dad to no end. There were plenty of fun and laughter with plans to play table tennis and go for karaoke regularly. I am very happy that both of our families can get along well.
Tonight, we will be having a small wedding dinner with some friends and relatives (Ryan’s grand parents and uncles’families have flown in from Korea) to celebrate the young couple’s joy.
I have to go now because in a couple of hour’s time, the groom will arrive with his entourage to snatch my daughter! We have bitter gourds and lots of yucky foods as well as tricks these boys have to eat and perform before the haggling of more hongbaos for the bridesmaids. Only then can Ryan bring Valerie over to his parents’ house (crossing of threshold) for customary tea offering to her in-laws.
Happy Sunday! 🙂
Lookout for the lunch we had before ROM and perhaps tonight’s wedding dinner might get a spot in my blog, too!