Life Is Once, Forever!

Of late, my life has been filled with happiness but it was also punctuated with afflictions. My mom had surgery on her fractured hip and was hospitalised for weeks. My uncle had brain haemorrhage and was operated on. My cousin informed me an aunt has a few months to live. One of my best friends’ mom was critically ill. I took a short break from blogging. I had nothing to share… I felt depleted emotionally. It was a time to reflect how fugacious life is!

Time is fluid. When it’s gone it’s gone, there are no second chances. Even if you were to do it again, that moment, that sentiment is gone. It cannot be repeated. Every moment only ever happens once! For the difference between good and bad experience can be just seconds apart.

The doctor had told my friend to be prepared for her mom’s passing. That was Mother’s Day. “It should happen within a couple of days”, he warned. I would visit her the next day. The next day, a few text messages notified the venue of the wake. I was numbed, more likely guilt stricken that I didn’t make it to see the feisty lady one last time. We used to go karaoke once a while.

There’s the guilt of not visiting sooner. The guilt of celebrating and enjoying the attention of my children while my friend and her family were having a lousy time leading up to Mother’s Day. I attended the wake nightly for 4 nights and sent the dear lady off on the 5th day. It was a grand procession. There was heavy downpour the day the cortege left for Mandai crematorium. During the bus ride, someone mumbled that the rain symbolised good tidings. I wondered if there’s life after death. Too philosophical… Too profound a question to be answered or to be questioned to begin with.

My friend prayed earnestly. It was not a challenge but she needed assurance. “God, if you are not going to take care of mom in heaven, give her back to me. I will give her a good life here on earth.”

I think God heard my friend but He took her mom all the same. God will provide. I can only humbly believe that God’s will will lead us to where His grace can keep us.

Mother is the greatest gift of God to all human being. In loving memory of my mother in law who passed on this morning - There are no words good enough to describe this lady of substance and I have been privileged to be a part of this big and loving family. Spend time with your mother and tell her you love her today before it's too late!

Mother is the greatest gift of God to all human being.
In loving memory of my friend’s mother.
There are no words good enough to describe this lady of substance. I have been privileged to be have known her.
Spend time with your mother and tell her you love her today before it’s too late!
Photo courtesy of Terry Border.

Life is ephemeral! What’s gone is gone. Sadly, there are no second chances!

If you have someone good in your life, DO NOT take them for granted. DO NOT harp on their small imperfections.

Celebrate life! Live life! Because tomorrow may never come.

Photo credit: Terry Border

6 Responses to “Life Is Once, Forever!”
  1. Lignum Draco says:

    Sorry to hear all these mixed emotions in your life currently. Your end message is a good one.

    • Sam Han says:

      Thank you Draco for understanding. Life’s a bummer at times, okay most times but I’ll keep holding on. I’m like a rolly polly, will bounce back up when down 🙂

  2. fugacious , had to look it up… well written…very upper level thinking…
    let go and let God, look for the good memories and move on to enjoy
    the happiness the next generation will bring.
    Love, hugs and blessings … ME and the Boss

    • Sam Han says:

      Michael, I really appreciate your being here with me. You seldom comment but when you do, you speak my language. Kind words do not cost much, yet your wise words are priceless. Thank you my friend 🙂

  3. audreyyoung7 says:

    Sorry to hear about this loss in your life Sam.

    • Sam Han says:

      Thank you Audrey. I’m better now after sorting my thoughts. Life is too short to grief too long. I should heed my own advice (at the end). 🙂

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