Food For Thought

Food For Thought

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Does the approval from others gives us a sense of higher self esteem? Are we deeply convinced that their recognition matters to our self worth? How much do we value ourselves when we are looking for approval and in some cases making sure we don’t get disapproval from others?

Do you worry what your friends will think of you if you had to sell your vacation home or trade your sports car for a family sedan? Are you strong enough to realize and stick by what you need to do to get out of a miserable situation regardless of what people think of you? Do you care about what others say so much so that you try to please everyone at the expense of your happiness and sometimes financial health?

Is the need for approval conditioned in us from the day we were born? Can we make decisions free of other’s opinions and let go about what they may think? Humans are social animals and measuring up to certain standards in the group we wish to be a part of demands that we meet up with their expectations.

Some people make decisions based on their own analysis; if I’m wrong at least it’s my decision. Others constantly seek the opinions of others, needing their validation; “Do you like the idea?… Is this okay?… What do you think? Am I doing the right thing?”

When we place someone else’s opinion higher than ours, what happens? Is getting other’s approval a form of addiction and if so how does it affect our daily lives? Will we become afraid of the consequences of pursuing the life that we really want?

Are you concerned with what others are saying or thinking about you? Are you afraid to act on ideas or intentions you thought were good but you think they (someone you know, family or friends) may not approve or like it? Are you overleveraged financially to keep up with the Joneses? Are you constantly seeking approval or avoiding disapproval? Are you afraid to voice your opinions or speak out your mind in public? When some of these are truths, does it mean we suffer low self esteem or are we just an amicable person? It all boils down to how far down the road we go, isn’t it?

While seeking approval from others is inevitable at times, other times we need to question ourselves if that’s really our concern. We talk about peer pressure to youngsters but as adults, why do we do the things we do? Does it frees us to become who we truly are? Are we genuinely happy (when happiness is varied and subjective) to just follow along? Do we not think we are good enough or have we spent too much time listening to our own doubts and the doubts of others or worse still, that we might not be loved the same way? Is the only way to have complete freedom from this caring of what other’s think is not to care about the outcome?

So many questions I have here… How about you giving me some opinions on this subject?
Did I just seek your opinions? Lol… 😉

Humans need interactions and are social beings.

Humans need interactions and are social beings.
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Have a happy weekend 🙂

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14 Responses to “Food For Thought”
  1. Sofia says:

    Hi Sam, Thanks for this interesting post 🙂 The truth is that in the last few years I’ve had a few very tough years so now I’m doing exactly what it says in the last image of this post 🙂

    • Sam Han says:

      Yes, having good supportive friends, no matter how few, are better than a load of “friends” (relatives included) that are not genuine and cannot be happy for you. Good for you that you have taken the path in the last image 😀

  2. My main problem is with clients at work and family members who put pressure on for this or that. If I could get away with not worrying about what they think I would be happy to. If they were just friends I’d be happy to just remove them from my life completely. But it’s harder when it’s those particular relationships.

  3. Rahburt says:

    Great post and you’re right that was some food for thought :). I think there are times when I’m stronger than others and don’t feel pressured or directed by outside influences and there are other times when I don’t my own direction. I think a good balance of both is needed as long as your priorities are straight.

  4. you know, “The Man, The Boy and The Donkey” was my first ever story from my first ever reader.

  5. First pic resembles the truth of arguments….
    Nice post 🙂

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